I’ve received a little feedback lately that I feel the need to address.

Recently the question of “are you happy being a stay at home mom?” has come up.  I guess this blog, my only outlet, has raised a few questions among some of my friends and family… the husband included.

To be 100% clear:  YES, I am very happy and I love being able to stay home with my children.

Of course I love being a stay at home mom or guess what, I wouldn’t do it.  I had a “professional life” pre-kids that I could fall back into if I wanted to hang up my “stay at home mom boots.”  There are days when I feel like I’m really nailing this whole stay at mom role, and then there are days when I feel like my kids might be better off with a nanny.

I tried to make a list of everything I love about my current job title of mom, but it just seems obvious.

  • I get to be with my kids all the time.
  • I get to raise my kids how I see fit.
  • I am the one they come to when they need something.
  • I am their comfort.
  • I can wear sweat pants all day… etc.

Here’s the deal though… all the things I love about being a stay at home mom are also all the things that can drive a person crazy.

  • Getting to be with my kids all the time is great and all, but sometimes it’s nice to just be alone… especially in the bathroom.
  • Getting to raise my kids how “I see fit” is great too, but the days I let my kids watch “too much TV,” it would be nice to be able to blame the babysitter.
  • Getting to wear yoga pants all day is a dream come true, but it does become a problem when you get so used to elastic waist bands that you can no longer stand (or fit into) pants with actual closures.

See where I’m going with this?

I am in charge of my own destiny, and I CHOOSE to be a stay at home mom.  I also choose to be a blogger who can freely express how I feel in certain situations.  Just because I write about my kid throwing a tantrum in the middle of Target, doesn’t mean that I’m not happy to be at said Target in the middle of the day with my little man in tow.

I’m all about being honest and open.  Hopefully my blog posts ring true with other parents in my same situation.  I’m not complaining as a cry for help; I am writing about real life.  It’s much easier to write about the dramas of my day than it is to write about the sweet little moments.

I’ll keep being me and keep enjoying my life right now.

To the husband, please don’t worry, I promise I’m not near a meltdown or a mid-life crisis.  I appreciate our kid-free time even more than ever!

To my readers, thanks for following along and for realizing this is me, flaws and all.  To anyone else out there thinking I’m miserable… don’t worry about me, all is good.

To anyone considering becoming a stay at home mom soon: follow your heart.  If you are considering being a stay at home mom, do it.  It really is such a rewarding job to be there with your little ones.  Like any job, there will be some tough moments, but you’ll get through them.  It’s worth it if you can make it work; I’ll be here along the way if you need some support or just to vent.

Here’s hoping we all can find our own happy role in life; no matter what that role may be.