Today I did it again. 

I was asked if “I just stay home” for a living and I got caught off guard.

Why does it always take me by surprise?!?  Maybe it’s the way it sounds…. “just staying at home.”  I’m not under house arrest, and I’m definitely not always at home… but it’s what my title seems to portray.

I wish I was wittier and more confident in those moments. 

I wish I would have just answered with a strong “Yes” without the need to ramble on for 10 minutes explaining WHY I am a stay at home mom, and how someday I might throw myself back into the workforce; because everyone else feels so comfortable with talking about.

I see it…. we seem to be divided into categories: working moms or stay at home moms.  Why?!?

Am I the only one who doesn’t care what other moms are doing?!  Am I the only stay at home mom who doesn’t want to feel less than for doing it?  I also applaud all moms, working and otherwise.  I have friends who work full time, part time, and who also stay at home.  I have never felt the need to feel like we are different; and I hope my friends feel the same way about me.

Personally I love knowing we all probably hide from our kids for a hot minute of peace. I like to focus on the similarities… we are little people’s schleppers of things and finders of snacks. I digress….

But, like clockwork, my defenses seem to soar when I’m confronted with my job title.

Why do we put us moms in such hard positions? 

I’ve been in this role for close to 9 years and somehow I still cannot just say loud, proud, and confidently, “Yes, I’m a stay at home mom and that’s okay!” 

Maybe someday.