The title “Stay at Home Mom” is a little deceiving.  A more accurate title would be “Everyone’s Everything.”  It possibly is the most rewarding job in the world, but it also can be tricky.

If you’re considering becoming a full-time mom or if you are currently in this role and need a few pointers, this blog is for you!

Tips to help rock at being a stay at home mom:

Tip #1:  Get a Maid

If you’re reading my first tip and are scrunching your nose at this, just give me a chance to explain.  Being home all the time does give you more time than most to clean your house, but it’s usually picking up after children and not actually cleaning.

Do yourself a favor and get a maid once a month.  It’s amazing what a professional, who isn’t encumbered with children, can do in a couple of hours.

Tip #2:  Find your Tribe & Stay True to You

Adult interaction is key to staying sane.  You will still have great friends who work the 9-5, but finding a few friends who are home when you are will help.  You won’t always find your tribe right away, there will be some vetting to go through.  Think of it like going on blind dates, some people you’ll meet will be nice and all, but it’s okay to be selective.

The first couple of years of being a stay at home mom will be full of self-discovery.  Your new life will be with tiny humans who don’t talk or give you compliments.  We all grow and change, but at our core, we all remain the same.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  Stay true to you and you can’t go wrong.

Tip #3:  Have a Good Playlist Handy

Music is a great mood lifter.  A random dance party never hurt anyone.

Tip #4:  Online Shopping

Online shopping will become like second nature.  Spend the extra money and get a free shipping membership, you won’t regret it!  Need toothpaste but don’t want to pack up the kids and run to the store?  No worries, that’s what free shipping is for.  Holiday shopping with a kid in tow is ROUGH, holiday shopping from your phone is NOT.

If you have a sleeping baby or a napping kid at home, I also recommend breaking your doorbell.  You’ll thank me later when those packages start piling up on your porch and your tiny dancer is still snoozing!

Tip #5:  Invest in good yoga pants.

Sounds so stereotypical of a stay at home mom, but there’s a reason we all wear yoga pants and pants with elastic waists.  You will be crawling on the floor, chasing a kid most of the time, and you will have food thrown onto your pants on a regular basis.  Might as well be comfortable and feel good while all this is occurring, right?

Invest in a couple of good pairs of pants that are not only comfy, but that make your butt look good.  It’s the small things that will go a long way when you find yourself shopping in a Target on a Tuesday morning.

Tip #6:  Get a Hobby

Having a creative outlet is one way of feeling like you’re not just a mom.  Find something you love to do and make time for it.  It will be very beneficial to you in the long run.

Tip #7:  Kid Activities

There will be days when the last thing you want to do is leave the house.  When your kids are babies, find something to do or to go on a regular basis that gets you out into the world.

When the kids get a little bigger, get them in a class or two with actual teachers.  You’ll get a break and they will get some interaction with other adults and kids while you are a safe distance away.

Tip #8:  Don’t Read too Many “How To” Books

My theory on “How to Books” is that they are great for reference, not for strict following.  Every child is different and all the “how to” books don’t always account for this.  Do what you think is best for your kids, and don’t feel the need to follow someone else’s guidelines.

This also applies to unsolicited advice from others; friends and family included.  Feel free to hear the advice and let it go.  You are a grown human, you can figure things out for yourself along the way.

Tip #9:  Find a good babysitter

Alone time is so important.  I cherish every second I have alone with the husband.  Maybe you live close to your family, use them!  Try to find one or two people you trust and that you can rely on for some quality time away.

If you don’t have anyone from above, try swapping kids with a friend.  Maybe once a month you get their kids while they go out and vice versa.  You can handle an extra couple of kids for one night… throw in a movie, get some popcorn and enjoy knowing you’re earning a night away.

Tip #10:  Have a Sense of Humor

This might be the most important tip on this entire list.  Don’t take yourself, or your kids, too seriously.  A sense of humor is a must when staying home with the kids.  What do you do when your baby has a massive blowout and you are literally covered in poop?  You laugh… and then throw the clothes away and try to clean up.

There are SO many situations that if taken too seriously, could break a person.  Being able to laugh at yourself and at the crazy things that will come your way will be a game changer.  If you take any advice to heart, take this one!

Hopefully this list helps, and just know, we are all in this together.  You’ve got this, and you are allowed to vent from time to time about having the “greatest job in the world.”